This is the story of my friend. He is much younger than I . He fell in love, like everyone else in his late 20s.His girlfriend was an amazing personality. She could have you laughing in splits within no time. Her sense of humor was a class apart. My friend too was a very good person. Caring and ambitious, loving and kind.
They were in love for 4 years. He was hesitant to open up the topic to his conservative parents. One day he mustered enough courage to announce his love to his parents. Hell broke lose. There was drama, followed by melodrama. In the trauma that followed he remained steady, and unwavering. Finally his parents came to terms with his decision.
They delivered a child within a year of marriage.
They were living with his parents. She wanted their own space. He refused, as he felt that his aged parents were good helpful and deserved to be with them. She refused to buy that. They were arguments, fights and a total change of attitudes. All laughter went out of their lives.
Love was replaced with ego adamancy and intentional emotional cruelty.
They realized that staying together as a couple would not work, whether with or without parents.
Now they are separate and waiting to go to the court to seek a divorce.
All within 6 years of courtship.
The institution of marriage is very demanding. Couples take each other for granted and have very little sensitivity to each others needs.
Most marriages are not successful. But we can do our level best to stop it from becoming a complete failure.
One in a thousand marriage work by itself. The remaining 999 marriages have to be made to work.
Does any arrangement bring only happiness? The answer is NO. Marriage is an arrangement, made by the society, and it cannot rise to the demands of a lifetime relationship. All of us spend our lifetime with someone, we feel, we hardly ever know.
And the nagging doubt always remains. In the list of priorities of your partner, where are you? Are you in the first or last or in-between , or not at all present?
Our school and college syllabus teaches us many subjects, but it does not prepare us emotionally for life. There is never a subject in the curriculum called inter personal skills.
If someone could teach us early in life, the art of getting along, then there would be no need for such estrangements
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